Does anything in this life come without strings attached?
Not much. In fact, I’d bet almost nothing does.
Everything seems to cost something in this world even if it’s not monetary. Expectations are a very real part of our life. Somehow it is just how we are wired.
But I think there could be far worse things than having strings attached.
Because what if we never tied ourselves to anyone or anything? What if we never allowed ourselves to fully experience life, relationships, emotions? What kind of life would that be?
As an introvert and a recovering control freak, I’m ashamed to admit how often I’ve tried to keep a “no strings attached” policy when it comes to friendships, relationships, etc.. Life is hard enough without these “strings” and relationships can be even harder.
Sadly, sometimes it is easier to tie a knot to create a barrier instead of creating a knot to strengthen ourselves together.
Yet if we don’t string ourselves together in some way – even on the community level – we will miss so much. I’m learning (albeit slowly) that when we knit our hearts with others, life is better.
And once you have experienced the beauty of true friendship, the joy of giving, the love of children/family, kindness from a stranger, or the hope of a good cause – how can you doubt that life is supposed to be lived with our heartstrings involved?
Now, I have to say none of it is for the faint of heart. There are hard moments in marriage, parenting, friendships, community, and even causes we are passionate about.
But in order to experience the good things, we have to endure the difficult things too. We are human. We will not get this life perfectly. We will hurt others and others will hurt us. But the benefits far outweigh the hurts.
A better life is lived when we let the strings of love attach to our hearts. That’s what drives us to encourage a friend, to give a hug, to say a prayer. It also breeds compassion, empathy, and acceptance.
It’s not that we expect anything in return but that we come together to serve one another in love. Because that is what love does.
I am convinced that knotting our “strings” together allows us to weave a beautiful life full of friends, relationships, and experiences that might never have come together if we had kept a “no strings attached” policy.
Ecclessiates 4:12 says “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves, a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Galatians 6:2 reminds us to “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Galatians 6:10 goes on to say “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.”
Hebrews 10: 24-25 challenges us to “..spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another- and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
If we keep ourselves separate, we will never know the incredible bonds of togetherness.
We are better together – our lives strung together with all the ups and downs that life can throw at us. Let us always be mindful of one another, giving and serving -strung together with love.