When I first posted on Facebook to friends and family about my Bell’s Palsy, one of my dear friends and mentor who has experienced Bell’s herself responded with two words of wisdom: “Be Brave.”
While we haven’t seen each other in many years, she knows me well. And I imagine she knows how tough it is for me to deal with something like this.
I’ve been thinking a lot about her comment and what it means to be brave in the face of challenges.
I try to be brave. I really do. Those who know me well know I’m the sort who tries not to show fear. Not because I’m never afraid but more out of pride and my stubborn personality than anything else.
I like trying new things. I like adventure. I like to look things in the eye and just deal with whatever it is. I don’t like things lurking in the shadows.
Just do it. Press on. Push harder. Be more. Do more. Figure it out. Just make it happen.
(And while you are at it, just stuff all those feelings of fear, insecurity, or uncertainty down deep so people think you are brave. Fake it until you make it!)
Yep. That has kind of been my motto in life. And many times, it serves me very well. Assertiveness and courage are excellent leadership skills and solid character traits to model for our children and to those around us.
But when it comes to relationships or slowing down to rest, being brave takes on a different meaning.
It is not putting on the “I’m OK” face and trying to hide our fear or not allowing ourselves to be authentic in our struggles, our successes, and in our daily lives. In fact, it is just the opposite.
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
Wow. “Letting ourselves be seen.” How often do we do that?
Is there room for more authenticity in many of our relationships and our daily lives?
I believe there is, but that requires bravery. Bravery to ask for help when needed. Bravery to say yes to help when offered. Bravery to allow ourselves to be seen even when we are not at our best. Bravery to accept the space and position we are in without judgement. Lots and lots of bravery.
So today, I’m reminded that to be brave means more than just tackling things head on; it means to slow, accept help, savor the moments, and allow myself to be seen.
Be Brave. ♥